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I’m reading Essentialism and I found one of the reasons I stopped coming to merveilles so often. This is an amazing community full of wonderful people, and a source of inspiration of all kinds. I consider myself lucky to be a part of it and contribute to it.

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imposter syndrome 

However, having a lot of creative people creating A LOT of cool stuff A LOT of the time can kick your imposter syndrome and/or make you feel like you SHOULD be doing more. Is it just me? I love to see you folks coding and painting and stuff but deep down I feel that pressure.

imposter syndrome 

I have to say, when I feel that, I just don’t visit merveilles. But I like that —when I’m ready— I can come back to this cool corner of the web and be inspired by you all. Thank you. :merveilles:

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@dfr the problem with imposter syndrome—I feel—and why people have it so strongly, as I do, is that some people don't feel as though they get enough support and reinforcement from the people in the community or space that is creating ostensibly the same or similar work. I have often felt barely acknowledged, that my work is generally unremarkable. Yet I keep going because it's what I love doing. Being an 'imposter' only applies to being part of a space, which is still optional.

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@dfr I'm also a sufferer. Used to get it a lot, less now, because I know that writing, or drawing makes me happy. So I focus on that rather than thinking about volume, quality or speed. It's supposed to be fun, to help us grow, but it's tough, society has wired our brains for competition.

Everyone has days (or months) when they can't make anything, and that's okay. Coming here to talk about it is a good idea, many ppl here can relate and in that way we can help each other.

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@rek thank you :) “society has wired our brains for competition” is a really good point, I think this may be the root of the issue. Regarding the periods of less creativity, I always thought of them like breathing (absorbing experiences —in, and creating stuff —out). Let’s do stuff that makes us happy, then 😄

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@dfr @rek My whole goal in talking about my projects is to find _collaborators_. People to jam with. So I'd _love_ to somehow help suspend all sense of competition in this space.

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@dfr I have gone through many iterations of overthinking on this topic, in particular of feeling a bit--- uh,,, unremarkable in a crowd of really talented people.

one iteration of my thought is, if you're thinking you have "imposter syndrome", it seems to me like by definition, you don't- because that wraps around, by thinking you have it, you deep down feel like it's just a feeling and you truly do deserve to be there. Either that, or you don't, and it's not a "syndrome".

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@dfr as for dealing with my own feelings, I have been working in the direction of feeling deeply okay about being mediocre. I might not have the output of other people here, but I still have fun here, and if I really weren't welcome, I'd get kicked out. You're human, I'm human, it's really okay to not be amazing all the time. What you see here looks like a lot of amazing output, but it's a filter of a lot of people posting just their best moments.

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@dfr as for what imposter syndrome *is*, I now have mixed feelings about using the term so lightly, after reading an article where the concept has been getting used to abuse and marginalise women in workplaces. By telling people they have a "syndrome" , it sounds like a fault with them, and puts the onus on them to fix it- Just will yourself to "feel" worthy… if a workplace full of microaggressions designed to make you feel unworthy.

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@dfr rather, it wasn't the article *doing* this, it was describing the phenomenon.

And so now- I am just, really cautious about declaring "imposter syndrome" on things as it may, without me even realising it, be perpetuating a system of abuse.

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@zens thanks a lot for that point of view (and your words), I didn’t know about that. I’ll investigate a bit :)

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@dfr This is the article
(sorry for the web being terrible)
hbr.org/2021/02/stop-telling-w

I still think "imposter syndrome" originally put a useful name to a specific phenomenon, and I wish I didn't have to throw the baby out witht the bath water.

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