The pursuit of psychological freedom
@ice That’s a really beautiful way to describe it. I’ll lock that away in the box of inspiring things to remember while exercising.
@utahcon I learned that my issues were largely caused by nervous system dysfunction and that the means to overcome it was to build conscious control over my nervous system response. In other words, I pretty much have to become a zen master, gradually rewire my nervous system, and develop a high level of control over my response to high stress situations.
So although I had to give up my goals for digital freedom, my number one aim is now psychological freedom.
@utahcon When I first came to the fedi, free / libre software and online privacy was at the forefront of my mind. Freedom in the digital space basically.
Then I had a huge health issue that put me in a spot where I couldn’t use my hands and so had to switch to voice control on proprietary platforms. I had to drop almost all my libre software and privacy protections virtually overnight.
I’m much better now but still depend on the proprietary gear.
@ljwrites It can be such a difficult thing to do well, particularly with an emotionally charged topic.
I fear I may have let myself down yesterday talking to a friend who out of nowhere started expressing his anti-mask sentiments. I’d just come back from seeing my Dad in the hospital, (who has dementia), and about 15 unsuccessful attempts to explain why he had limited visitors. So my ability to calmly make my case was certainly strained. 🙁
@ljwrites Right! An actual disagreement is really a logic problem that ought to be solvable through gathering and examining evidence.
And if both parties earnestly want to discover the truly optimal solution to the problem they should be able to work together on it, even if they start out with differing hypothesis.
@neauoire That’s true, with feeds all shifted up algorithmically it’s a totally different interaction than here.
I just realised what it is that I really like about this place.
I initially thought it was mostly because of shared interest with people here, but recently my interests changed dramatically and I still wanted to come back.
Now I see it’s something much more fundamental. People here actually listen to each other. Like, properly.
Everyone pays close attention to what others have said and they do their very best to provide thoughtful discourse. And that is something we all need much more of.
@ljwrites (Correct me if I’m wrong).
Sort of like looking at a swinging pendulum and saying, “Look, obviously a binary, only two positions: TICK and TOCK”
@ljwrites Interesting to see you talking about this topic as I’ve been thinking about it quite a lot recently, three things in particular.
1. Yinyang is totally a spectrum because it’s a moving concept and only seems binary in a frozen snapshot.
2. We often contrast two qualities that aren’t actually on the same spectrum, but each have their own spectrums.
3. Gender is falsely conflated with characteristics considered squarely yin or yang, that are in fact equally accessible to everyone.
@Katsudon That in turn makes us stronger, more resilient, able to tap into more of our potential, and less susceptible to both physical and psychological injury from the non-controlled hardships of life.
It took me getting to the point of wondering how I was going to use a wheelchair if my arms didn’t work, and wondering if further degradation was still coming, to put me in what felt like a do or die position, but now I finally understand.
@Katsudon So the climb is what defines these little fish. Every one of them comes from an evolutionary chain of ancestors who adapted to and overcame that difficulty.
And it’s the same for us, countless generations that survived through difficulty and adapted in order to do so. There is nothing more essential to how life changes over time.
So accepting and, to the greatest extent possible, deliberately undertaking controlled difficulty brings us into alignment with the engine of nature.
@Katsudon I watched a nature documentary last night with these tiny fish that spend days climbing up a sheer rock face waterfall to go and mate upstream. 99 out of 100 of them fall and die. The ones who get through the hardship are the ones who carry on to the next generation, evolving their species.
This is the fundamental nature of life. We adapt to the climb or we fall and we’re out of the picture. Evolution only “wants” that determined little fish that hangs on for dear life.
@Katsudon Although I’m still healing, I’m now doing things I haven’t done in decades, and on my current trajectory will be able to do things I’ve never done before. I had to level up my mental strength in an all new way to get myself up and fighting. I’ve become stronger in ways I didn’t know I could.
I’m at my psychological best ever, and actively getting physically and mentally stronger daily. Had I not gotten into such bad shape that never would have happened.
The pursuit of psychological freedom
Merveilles is a community project aimed at the establishment of new ways of speaking, seeing and organizing information — A culture that seeks augmentation through the arts of engineering and design. A warm welcome to any like-minded people who feel these ideals resonate with them.