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One area where fiction literally is a better source of truth than social studies is filial love. The subject is so taboo, we can only learn about it in art.. well for the most part.

Filial love is the mortar of the patriarchy. And because it is essential to its survival, we are told it is a natural thing to love a parent. Two persons, two bodies like any other body but this one in particular. Special, special duty of love (nb; it’s either a duty or love, sorry can’t be both).

When this is established as truth and you find yourself out in the world with nothing but confusion about your feelings for your parents… how can you not feel guilty? If filial love is natural, and my parents didn’t beat me, no they fed me, said I love you a few times, why am I such a monster for not loving them in return?

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If you took a better look at parental love and removed everything that isn’t really love, what remains?

Care, protection… all these things we’ve been taught to consider as love, are they really love or parents meeting basic moral expectations?

If my voice isn’t heard, that I am not an equal in rights, that I cannot feed myself, that I can’t free myself, that I rely on all authorities around me to do anything, am I actually in a position to love?

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All the good will on earth won’t change the fact that in a western and modern society, parents and children aren’t equals. We do not start in life as a person connecting with another person. Most of us connect as the oppressed. The centrifugal force of society and our families oppress us and adult us into obedience. Most families aren’t loving but working for a Project. And yes the project is to use hands and mine brains.

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It’s a bad outlook on life when family is not (seen as) a nurturing ecosystem but a complicit producer of domesticated human workers. So are schools, juvenile prisons, summer camps, Boy Scouts, any institution which business is turning raw material called child into the better and finished version of us called adult.

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Unlike women and minorities who at least could ask loud enough to be heard, we do not see children as oppressed. But they are. And they also are the most silent among the oppressed for they have no rights and no voice. And the worst of all is we’ve all been children. Oppressing children is a traitor crime. It’s the ex child murdering the new child, not until they’re dead but almost dead. Just the right amount of dead so they can do it again when it’s their turn.

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That last image of the almost dead is in this excellent book called “Les enfants d’abord” from Christiane Rochefort but sadly don’t think it was ever localized in English.

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@maleza I didn’t know them thank you. I have read Rochefort and Ivan Illich so far and it’s helping me to put words on feelings.

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@mx3m I don't know about Rocheforth. Illich is one of my favourites.

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